Yesterday was Mother’s Day. My thoughts wandered to the last three years of my mother’s life. I found myself basking in the tender feelings that welled up in me as I remembered my regular visits to her nursing home. Those three years were a gift to me and our relationship. Medication had softened her volatile personality and caustic tongue.
Unfortunately, that was not always the case. Like many caregivers, caring for a parent that has abused them physically or psychologically over their lifetime, is very difficult. Aging and the problems that come with it often make the abuse more intense. However, you are often conflicted between love for your parent and your desire to not experience the harsh criticism and abuse that has plagued your childhood.
