Emotions are a given when involved in eldercare. Anger is often at the forefront of these emotions. However, anger is energy in motion. It brings you information about yourself if you are willing to acknowledge the emotion. When you resist and refuse to experience your honest feeling, the entrapment drains your energy and brings continuing discomfort. Elder Mediation allows all those involved to stop and pay attention to the raw emotions.
My guest writer, Malcolm Bennett, Elder Mediator will share further insight into the process.
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Providing care for an elderly parent can be a stressful and an emotionally volatile time. Conflict within the family is almost a fact of life. There can be minor disagreements between the family members and at times those minor differences can escalate into a breakdown in the fabric of the family.
If conflict is handled badly, it can lead to mistrust, dissatisfaction and the destruction of the family relationship. However, if handled skillfully and creatively, conflict can be a healthy process; leading to change that is beneficial for everyone.
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As is my routine, every Monday morning I set aside time to write this weekly Caring and Sharing blog. Often something I have read, heard or experienced the previous week inspires each issue. Today the inspiration was waiting for me in my in-box.
I want to share an inspiring blog entitled, Every Monday Matters that will influence your life, as well as your caregiving role. The author Shawn Parr highlights an interview with Matt Emerzian, the author of Every Monday Matters – 52 Ways to
Make a Difference. Matt Emerzian states:” (Monday) represents a day for all of us to do better, to be better. First, we need to stop dreading Mondays. If you really think about it, we have created a monster out of a day of the
week, and the monster is so powerful that it even overpowers our Sundays. . .Mondays can be a day of inspiration, a day to celebrate the start of a new week. It gives us an opportunity to make a choice, to make the simple, yet paramount
choice of how we want to live our life.” Read the rest of this entry »
My widowed mother had forged a full, productive life for herself, since my father’s death 25 years ago. She travelled extensively, kept physically active and prided herself in playing a competitive game of duplicate bridge. She had always been fiercely independent, caring for her own home and garden.
Although my sister and I lived a distance from my mother, we were both content with the fact that she had a strong social support system. Her phone calls were peppered with meals she was preparing, the bridge parties she was hosting and the local gossip. We were assured that all was well and life went on. Read the rest of this entry »
A couple of years ago, while preparing my business plan for Care Full Heart Coaching, I read a number of research and government studies that outlined the impact of eldercare on work life balance. One such study www.phac-aspc.gc.ca/publication/work cited that caregiver strain costs Canadian employers an estimated 1 billion dollars in absenteeism and 1-2 billion in indirect cost of low productivity. The study concluded that these costs were going to increase as the population aged and the care demands grew. Read the rest of this entry »